
## When Reading Becomes a Chore

It started slowly. I'd look at the book club calendar and feel tired instead of excited. The TBR pile felt like homework. On meeting days, I'd consider excuses to skip.

This was supposed to be fun. I'd founded this book club. I loved reading. What happened?

Burnout had happened. And I almost let it kill something that had given me years of joy.

## Recognizing Book Club Burnout

Burnout sneaks up on you. Watch for these signs:

**You're reading to finish, not to enjoy.** Skimming to meet the deadline, not savoring the story.

**Meetings feel obligatory.** The calendar reminder triggers dread, not anticipation.

**You're performing enthusiasm.** Pretending to care more than you do.

**The books all blur together.** You can't remember what you read two months ago.

**You resent the commitment.** Other activities feel sacrificed for book club.

**Discussion feels repetitive.** Same conversations, same dynamics, nothing new.

If several of these resonate, you might be burning out.

## Why It Happens

Several factors contribute:

### Pace Issues
Reading one book a month may not match your natural rhythm. Some people need more time; some want more. Mismatched pacing creates stress.

### Book Selection Fatigue
When you consistently dislike the selections, the whole endeavor feels pointless. Choice fatigue from voting processes adds to exhaustion.

### Social Energy Drain
For introverts especially, monthly social obligations can deplete energy, even enjoyable ones.

### Life Changes
What worked when you had more time/energy may not work now. Seasons of life change our capacity.

### Role Burnout
If you're always hosting, facilitating, or organizing, those tasks compound the exhaustion.

### Stagnation
Same people, same format, same conversations year after year can lose their spark.

## Strategies for Recovery

### Take Strategic Breaks
You don't have to quit entirely. Options:
- Skip one meeting with no guilt
- Attend without finishing the book sometimes
- Take a planned month or two off

Book club will survive. Your burnout won't heal if you keep pushing through.

### Evaluate the Format
Is monthly too frequent? Try bi-monthly. Too much structure? Try casual. Too loose? Add more framework.

The format that worked when you started may not be what you need now.

### Redistribute Responsibilities
If you're doing too much, stop doing some of it. Let others host. Rotate facilitation. Use a random selector for books instead of elaborate voting.

No one person should carry a book club.

### Change the Selection Process
If book choices are the problem:
- Try a genre you never do
- Let each person pick one book per year with no voting
- Do a classic everyone probably should have read
- Pick something short and easy as a palate cleanser

### Add Variety
Break up the routine:
- Watch a movie adaptation together
- Have a meeting that's purely social
- Do a reading challenge as a group
- Invite a new member
- Try a different location

### Have an Honest Conversation
Your book club friends might be feeling the same way. Talking about it can lead to collective changes that help everyone.

### Consider Taking a Full Pause
Sometimes a group hiatus is the right call. "We're taking the summer off" lets everyone recharge. Often, people return excited rather than obligated.

## Prevention: Building Sustainable Habits

If you've recovered from burnout or want to prevent it:

### Build in Flexibility
Skip policies, light months, and guilt-free absences should be normalized, not exceptional.

### Check In Periodically
Ask members quarterly: "How's the format working? Anything you'd change?"

### Vary Intensity
Follow a challenging book with something lighter. Mix dense literary fiction with fun genre reads.

### Keep the Why in Focus
Why did you join book club? Social connection? Reading accountability? Intellectual stimulation? Make sure the current format serves your actual purpose.

### Know When to Move On
Sometimes a specific group isn't working anymore. That's okay. You can love book clubs without loving this particular one.

## My Recovery Story

I didn't quit my book club. Instead, I:
- Admitted I was struggling (others were too, it turned out)
- Stepped back from hosting for three months
- Skipped one meeting guilt-free
- Suggested we do a shorter, lighter book
- Reexamined what I actually wanted from the group

The book club adapted. We meet every six weeks now instead of monthly. We're more flexible about attendance. I stopped being the de facto organizer.

And reading is fun again.

## You're Allowed to Change

Book club serves you, not the other way around. If it's not working, something needs to change—the format, your role, your expectations, or your membership.

The goal is a sustainable relationship with reading and community. Burning out serves no one.

Readfeed's flexible book club options let you participate at your own pace. Find a club that fits your life right now, not your life from five years ago.


Love your book club but feeling exhausted? Learn to recognize the signs of book club burnout and discover strategies to rekindle your enthusiasm.

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