It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single

If you're single but searching, there's no end of explanations, excuses, and criticism you'll hear to explain why you're single. Even the most self-possessed singleton may come to doubt herself. ?

"You're too picky. Just find a good-enough guy and you'll be fine."
"You're too desperate. If men think you need them, they'll run scared."
"You're too independent. Smart, ambitious women always have a harder time finding mates."
"You have low self-esteem. You can't love someone else until you've learned to love yourself."
"You're too needy. You can't be happy in a relationship until you've learned to be happy on your own."

It's Not You is structured around the many messages that singles, especially single women, get about who they are and who they're supposed to be. Supported by the latest psychological and sociological research, as well as interviews with single women, Eckel creates a strong argument for why you should love yourself as you are--no change necessary. By debunking the myths that have kept single women doubting themselves, Eckel encourages singles to stop picking apart their personalities and to start tapping into their own wisdom about who and what is right for them, as they begin to understand and accept there's no one reason they're single--they just are.